Davina McCall is looking for a man. Not just any man. One that can step up to the plate and be her soulmate.
The telly host longs for the perfect partner after a rollercoaster ride through the world of relationships.
Today she declares she is seeking love for the first time since her divorce from husband of 17 years Matthew Robinson, 49, last year.
At times, she has felt so thwarted in her quest that she jokingly wished she could get together with her best female friend – someone who she can truly depend on.
Mum-of-three Davina, 51, said: “What I want is, I want men – and this is for my daughters and for my son and this is for me – to stand next to me as a partner.
“So everything is a partnership. Everything is like ‘what shall WE do about dinner’?
Davina and Matthew Robertson
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“It’s not like ‘I’m going to be at work all day and I’m going to cook dinner for you’.
“It used to be ‘What’s for dinner darling?’ And I’d go ‘I’ve got your slippers at the door’.
“It’s not like that any more, we are in a massive time of change. It’s like ‘this is how you can be a man, and find your way as a man and stand next to a woman and support her and she will support you’.”
Davina has two daughters with her ex – Holly, 17, and Tilly 15 – and 12-year-old son Chester.
The presenter of Long Lost Family and former host of Big Brother spoke about love and life with Matt Johnson and Ben Bidwell on their new podcast The Naked Professors.
On men, Davina said: “I’ve got a best girlfriend in the whole world and she has been my bestie since I was 19 and I always think ‘God, if I could just find a man…’
Davina has two daughters with her ex
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“We have been through so many different things in life – births, deaths, marriages. It has just made us stronger and that’s the dream, to meet somebody and do that.”
When show host Matthew joked about her pal taking the role of the man in her life, Davina said: “If only!”
She admitted she never believed in finding a soulmate until recently and confesses to falling for “bad boys” in her youth.
Davina went on: “There are people who make you feel confident and there are people who put you on shaky ground from the get go, and these are the kinds of relationships I sought when I was a very young girl. I always went for the bad boy, the boy who made me feel insecure, it was terrible fear.
“I’ve always been slightly like, ‘I don’t believe in soulmates’. But I’ve met some couples recently and just thought, ‘I think you are soulmates’.
“The soulmate thing happens when the cogs fit. The really important thing is that you keep talking, so if there is something niggling you, just talk about it because these little, it’s the little things that grow into big things. Without love, that is so hard.”
With the Naked Professors Ben and, left, Matt
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Aside from matters of the heart, Davina has suffered great sadness this year after two pals took their own lives.
She exercises regularly to cope – sometimes to extremes, as her famous fitness selfies have shown.
Davina added: “I work out a lot for the way it makes me feel mentally. You would think in your fifties you would have it sussed. I’ve had two suicides this year, friends of mine. I feel like sometimes those people… that is an illness where it is an imbalance and it’s asking for help.
“I’m really lucky that I don’t think I’ve ever felt depressed, I’ve always felt that there is hope.
“I’ve felt enormously sad. I feel often that I’m grieving loss of something, moving into a different phase of my life that often means saying goodbye to something else and that is sad. But I don’t get depressed.”
The last time Davina wept was when her grandma, 98, died in June.
Wiping away tears, she said: “I really let rip when we laid my granny – oh God I’m going to start again – when we laid my granny to rest.
“Grandad was there and there was a space for her next to him and I was with my dad, who is my other rock. My dad has Alzheimer’s and I was reminding him of where we were, why we were there and I suddenly just had this huge feeling of loss and I cried, and I cried, and I cried.
The last time Davina wept was when her grandma, 98, died in June
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“I drove to my friend’s house and she said ‘We are going to do an art class,’ and I just burst into tears again.
“I said ‘I’m so sorry Emma but I am going to cry every five minutes we are together because I cannot stop, it is like a tsunami’.
“Then that evening I was really laughing, it was like I unlocked something and let it all go.
“I thought I’m around people who make me feel so safe that is all right to one minute be crying and the next minute be laughing. Love is feeling safe enough with your people.”
Despite her new single status, recovering alcoholic and drug addict Davina is “very happy in my own company”.
She added: “It’s taken me a long time to get here, getting older, happier in my own skin. I’ve learnt a lot from recovery.
“The bad times aren’t as dark as the time you spent using. The peaks and troughs are enjoyable – that is part of the life rollercoaster.
“Age brings you lots of things but it does seem to bring a level of self knowledge which helps you be more comfortable in your own skin.”
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